he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you’re young and you’re kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don’t like bad boys, per say, but you don’t really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.
except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn’t learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you’re going. he’s just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn’t he eventually soften? can’t you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?
at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you’re fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you’re not going to punish him for his personality type.
except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn’t get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you’re the single exception.
about a decade from this experience, you’ll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.
he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you’re learning what he’s actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.
This law is dangerous, harmful to mad/mentally ill/neurodivergent people, and will cause more psychiatric trauma. I’m incredibly worried about the way politicians are weaponizing the concept of “mental health crises” and “bed shortages” to pass laws that increase incarceration. Psych survivors can tell you that any time spent psychiatrically incarcerated is too long, but these extensions from 3 days to 6 days will have dramatic impacts on people’s wellbeing. There are people who will now lose their job because they missed 6 days off work, have to arrange childcare for 6 days, miss an entire week of school, who spend days in solitary confinement, go through repeated strip searches, go through withdrawal, and deal with the everyday violence of psychiatric hospitalization for that much longer. It is crucial that we fight against any policies that give more power and authority to the psych system, and build up alternative systems of care based in values of mad liberation/psych abolition, autonomy, and disability justice.
We deserve care, not confinement.
someone added tags pointing out that for most psych holds, weekends do not count. So under the old system, if you came in on a Friday night, you might not get out until Wednesday. Under a new system, you might be held there for 8 days before even getting to court proceedings.
I’m not going to mince words: this is kidnapping and assault, state-sanctioned.
And for those wondering how this is meant to help a psych hospital bed shortage, it isn’t. It’s meant to allow them to hold patients longer WAITING for a bed, so they’re more likely to get one.
Do you know where that pre-hospital hold can take place, if the cops are who got called? Because if you guessed jail, yeah, it’s sometimes jail.
This is very much part of the prison abolition issue.
me: “yeah I dated a guy in high school who came out as gay. it was before i knew i was a boy so needless to say it didn’t work out”
coworker: “damn dude was preordering”
other things this coworker (who is a cis guy) has done/said:
—got confused about why I’d never been a boy scout because he forgot i was trans
—told me he was gonna get top surgery scar tattoos to match me after i get mine
—laughs at all my trans jokes, even if they’re supremely unfunny
—calls me big dog (and him little dog) even though he is about as tall as two of me
— “I can’t believe she would say that transphobic thing to you. In June? Pride month?”
Once I said “My gender is whatever’s funniest at the time” and my coworker stops dead in his tracks, turns slowly and says “So are your pronouns honk/honk?” killing me instantly
tbh i kinda hate the “lol tumblr users are old and thats why we’re in pain” jokes
like. no. you arent old, youre fucking 30, and if youre in constant pain there is something wrong and you may be able to actually DO something about it if you acknowledge it!!!!
like yeah the only medical care a lot of people have access to is worse than useless but instead of pretending its fine and normal we could be sharing resources and figuring shit out!!!
this is super important
I’m a lot older than 30, and my history includes motorcycle accidents, getting shot, tearing tendons, breaking bones, dislocating a shoulder, etc
yet I only feel pain when I do things that I can easily avoid, neglect to do mobility work after hard physical activity, use bad ergonomics, or just do something stupid
if you’re relatively young and feeling pain unrelated to a physical injury, talk to someone who’s an expert in physiology or physical therapy
if you have good health insurance, get thee to a doctor or a physical therapist who can diagnose what’s going on and put you on a treatment or maintenance program
living with unnecessary pain can lead to or mask chronic illness
pain is a warning sign - understand what you’re being warned about
funny news; this post is the Exact Reason i made my lengthier post about hEDS (which you can find here)
it is NOT normal to be in pain all the time, actually, and while there’s many reasons you might be in pain that aren’t hEDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Hypermobile subtype), i feel like you should nonetheless consider the possibility that you have it due to it is (1) THE chronic pain condition; having chronic pain is one of the major three things that will make you eligible for an hEDS diagnosis (2) WILDLY underdiagnosed in patients, because doctors assume it’s literally anything else before considering a hEDS diagnosis. (article that touches on that here, but you’ll find experts speculating that the actual number of ppl with hEDS may be underestimated all over)
other reasons to consider it besides the chronic pain: extremely flexible (such as: can still bend down and touch your toes or the floor despite being thirty), joints do or have dislocated frequently in your life, you bruise easily, your cuts take forever to heal. OR from any of the don’t-sound-like-they-should-be-related-but-are-nonetheless-comorbid issues: migraines, gastrointestional issues, dental issues due to crowding, or (yes, really) ADHD. also worth considering if you have either POTS or MCAS for that matter.
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